Body image: My hypocrisy

Disclaimer: As you can tell from this title, this blog post will discuss body image. 

Content 

Introduction 

This blog post has been floating around my notes for a while now. I was in two minds about posting it, as I wanted to offer a balanced view while remaining true to myself. I will warn you, this is another vulnerable side of me post, as I want to share content that others can relate to that might offer some support. 

Today, I want to discuss the topic of body image and my hypocrisy towards the entire concept. Trust me; this will make sense the more you read. 

What is body image? 

Body image encompasses body confidence and self-objectification. Body confidence refers to how satisfied you are with your appearance, while self-objectification relates to how much you see yourself through the eyes of others. Specifically, self-objectification places a lot of weight on the opinion of others, and your self-worth is based on how others judge you. 

Ultimately, body image refers to how you see your own body.

The idea of beauty 

Different societies have various beauty ideals, which most people cannot live up to, as they tend to be unrealistic. 

Having a good body image surprising doesn’t mean that you think you are beautiful; it actually means you appreciate your body and everything that it does for you. But, if you do think you are beautiful, handsome or attractive, you should!  

When we refer to poor body image, we mean that we are unsatisfied with our body. 

How do we feel about our bodies? 

body confidence campaign progress report in 2015 stated that a large portion of the population was dissatisfied with their appearance. The report stated that 63% of women aged 18-34 were satisfied with their appearance, whereas only 57% of women aged 35-49 were satisfied with their appearance. 

Another interesting statistic is that the report also states is that 77% of adults believe that ‘society puts too much pressure on women to have a sexualised appearance’. 

An article by the Mental Health Foundation highlighted how 34% of adults felt anxious or depressed about their body image. 

Why am I sharing all these statistics, you might ask? They highlight how we, including myself, are not alone when it comes to body image issues. Other people have personal issues when it comes to their appearance, and all those issues are valid. Regardless of gender, we can all experience body image-related issues.   

My hypocrisy

Do you have cellulite, big thighs, small thighs, stretch marks? If other people have these, it’s fine, but if I do, now, that’s a problem! I love body confidence campaigns, I love when people of all shapes and sizes wear what they want, but I can’t provide that kind of support to myself. 

When I look into the mirror, I can’t apply any of the complimentary words I use to describe others to myself. Everyone is beautiful, so why don’t I apply that to myself? Why do others find that so hard as well? 

Do you find yourself complimenting your friends or even strangers, but you can’t talk to yourself with the same kindness? 

Positive body image

While I currently have a poor body image, I am working towards loving myself. I think we all strive for a positive body image, as it means you are satisfied with your body. 

I hope these tips and reminders can help you on your journey towards a positive body image. I know that I plan to use these as reminders for myself moving forward. 

Body Image
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels

Appreciate what your body does

Your body does a lot for you; after all, life is more than just a catwalk. Think about what your body has done for you recently. 

Laughing, dancing, walking, hugging, running etc. Your body does a lot for you, and it is important to remember that. Think about it, what has your body done for you today?

Clothing 

Does anyone keep those ‘one-day’ clothes? You know the clothes you keep because one day you will fit into them. Yeah, those clothes aren’t motivation. Instead, they tend to be unhelpful, in my experience. 

For example, I had a pair of jeans that I fit into before University, so seven years ago. I kept them because I thought one day I would fit into them, but that was unrealistic. In those seven years, my body changed, so it makes sense those jeans would not fit anymore. 

I was putting my worth on whether or not a pair of jeans would fit. It sounds silly when I write it down, doesn’t it? The moment I let go of those jeans, I felt like a weight had been lifted. After waving goodbye to other pieces of clothing that no longer fit, I treated myself to clothing that fit, that was my size and it made me feel good about my body. 

Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable in your body. Whatever your style might be, choose clothing that you love. 

The mirror is your friend 

I go through periods where I just avoid the mirror. I didn’t like the reflection. I didn’t tell anyone this, because it feels so strange saying, I don’t like looking in the mirror. 

I’ve tried to change this recently, first, by taking note of what I did when I looked into the mirror. I focused on areas of myself that I hated instead of looking at myself. I looked at my full self instead of fixating on little areas I didn’t like. 

Then instead of focusing on the areas I didn’t like, I focused on the small parts I did. Granted, it was hard to think of parts I did like to begin with, but I found that the more I did this, the more I appreciated myself, even just a little bit. 

Social media isn’t all real 

Does anyone else scroll through social media and start to feel disheartened about their appearance? 

More often than not, social media is not real. It is a snippet from someone’s life, which means you don’t really get the full picture. Filters, lighting, photoshop – they all play a part in social media sometimes. While it is a balancing act of putting out content you feel comfortable with, as an audience, we should remember that it isn’t always 100% real. 

Treat yourself 

Appreciate yourself by doing something nice for yourself. Take yourself on a solo date to spend time with yourself, and truly appreciate you. I like the idea of treating yourself and essentially taking yourself on a date. Sometimes, we can all forget how interesting and incredible we are, which is why a solo date is so important. You take time to remind yourself who you are, what you like and how you like to spend your time.

The right people 

It is very important to surround yourself with people who support and encourage you. It is easier to feel good about yourself when your circle sees the importance of liking yourself. 

Summary 

I am overweight, but that doesn’t mean I’m ugly. I’m overweight, but that doesn’t mean I don’t matter. Size does not determine your worth. 

I know reading through a blog post won’t completely eliminate any problems you might be having in terms of your body image, but I hope it provides some comfort. You are not alone.

Strangely, writing this blog post provided some comfort to me, so I hope it does the same for you. 💜

The beautiful thing about humanity is that we are all different. The ugly thing is that not everyone can accept that. 

Let’s appreciate all the beauty in the world. 😊

As always, I end with a question. Feel free to answer in the comments below.

Love yourself

I like my eyes. My eyesight is slowly getting worse, as it is just a blurry image without my contacts, which is why I appreciate the fact that I can see with assistance. 💜

39 thoughts on “Body image: My hypocrisy

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  1. great post. I love how detailed & thorough it is. and body image is important & even more so when it’s hard to have a high self esteem when you are surrounded by perfect photos of people

    one thing I love about myself — my hair 🙂

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  2. I love this post. There is so much pressure on people, especially women, to confirm to an unrealistic, ideal standard that is dictated to us by others. As you point out, social media doesn’t help.

    As I age, I realize society as a whole does not value age and wisdom. People spend billions of dollars to look younger. What’s wrong with looking your age? Personally, I reject that “need” to stay young-looking. I embrace my gray hair and wrinkles, because I’ve earned every one! I wear clothes that make me feel good, whether they’re in fashion or not.

    Ultimately, we should all strive to be healthy and feel good. That is true beauty!

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    1. Thank you for your support, Michelle.

      May I just say that you have an amazing mindset, Michelle! Loving who you are and appreciate every part of you. Embrace who you are! 😊

      I am still self-conscious, but I am with you on wearing what makes you feel good. As I get older, I realise that fashion changes so much, and if people ‘pick on you’ based on what you wear, that is a representation of their character, not yours. I will wear what I want, what feels good and what makes me feel confident. 😊

      Yes! Let’s all strive to be healthy, feel good, and may I add, kind, as that is true beauty, as you say. 😊 Thank you for your wonderful comment.

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  3. Hi TYD,

    An interesting read, thank you.

    I’m a little overweight and I’m working on losing a few pounds. However, this is only because I realise that I will be healthier when carrying less weight and, hopefully!, live a little longer (and avoid any weight-related physical issues). It is not because of some perception of what other people may think because, frankly, I don’t care what (most) other people may think! 🙂

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    1. Hello Richie! I am glad you found this post interesting. You have the right mindset that I strive to achieve – not caring about what other people may think. I still get self-conscious and have to stop comparing myself to others, as we are all different, and that’s okay.

      Keep doing you! Thank you for your comment. 😊

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    1. I am glad you liked it. Thank you. I remember when I was told I had to wear contacts. I was a little disheartened as well, but they provided me with so much freedom. It is amazing how these little pieces of plastic can make the world clearer. 😊

      Thank you for your comment. 😊

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  4. Really important post, thanks for opening up as it can’t always be easy. I’ll be writing something similar myself on the idea of picking out the flaws you see in your body, mostly unnecessarily. These can be flaws that others don’t see or that most of the people in the world wouldn’t even see as being flaws, but we programme our mind to think they are! This post will definitely mean a lot to some people out there so well done 🙂

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    1. Thank you! I was so nervous about sharing this post, but I am so glad I did now.

      That will be an interesting post to read, as it is a topic I think about a lot. Why do we fixate on these flaws that no one else seems to notice or even care about? I am glad you think this post will mean a lot to some people out there. 😊

      Thank you for your comment. 😁

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  5. Thank you for sharing such vulnerability and honesty. We each can find something we love about ourselves and things we may not. Your story brings encouragement to others.

    Pastor Natalie 🤗
    Letstakeamoment.com

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  6. Yes to this post! I’ve definitely struggle with body confidence in the past. My nan once reminded me that I was always see flaws no-one else sees, because I’m looking at my body from a different angle. Our bodies deal with so much, its time we appreciated them more.

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    1. Thank you, I am glad you liked it. Your nan is very wise, I agree. We all fixate on flaws that no one else sees or even cares about.

      Our bodies truly are amazing, every size and shape, and we should all appreciate them more. Thank you for your comment; it was lovely to read. 😊

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  7. Such an honest post. Thank you for sharing.

    I love your points about taking yourself on a date and learning to love your flaws.

    I’m probably the happiest I’ve been with my body because my mindset is now all about loving myself more. But I do still have moments where I don’t like my body and think I need to change it.

    Unfortunately, I think these thoughts are ingrained in us and it’s sad. The point about social media is so important.

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    1. Thank you for your comment. I am glad you liked the points I made in this post.

      👏 It is amazing that you are the happiest you have ever been with your body! That is an amazing mindset to have.

      It is sad that certain thoughts are ingrained in us, but hopefully, we can change that slowly but surely. 😊 Thank you for your comment.

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  8. This is such a great post. I am the same way when it comes to body image, I have no problem with other having stretch marks but when it comes to me I just have a hard time accepting it. But it’s true that sometimes it is affected by the clothing one wears, the people you surround with, and social media.

    Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thank you. It is a hard time accepting yourself, even if you accept the same thing in other people. It is a slow journey, and we all need to take it one step at a time. I am confident that one day, I will be confident in who I am; I hope you get there as well. 😊

      We are our own biggest critics, after all. Thank you for your comment. 😊

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  9. Thanks for this. It’s so important and something I’ve struggled with over the years. I do find myself in more of an acceptance mode of who I am now. That doesn’t mean every day is good but it’s all about just taking it one step at a time!

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    1. You’re welcome. I am glad you have reached a point of acceptance, and it is amazing that you recognise that not every day will be good. You are right; it is about taking it one step at a time.

      Thank you so much for sharing your insight. 😊

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  10. Wow, ok, I did NOT expect this post to apply to me. I think of myself as having pretty good body image because i don’t spend a lot of time mentally berating myself for my appearance or comparing myself to others. But…I don’t compliment myself, use positive words to describe my body the way I do others. The absence of negativity doesn’t imply the presence of positivity, apparently, and our bodies deserve more than neutrality from us.

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    1. It is good that you do not spend time mentally berating yourself, but I think we all should use the complimentary words we use for other people for ourselves as well.

      I love that ‘the absence of negativity does not imply the presence of positivity’; that is a very powerful statement; thank you for sharing.

      Thank you for sharing your insight; I enjoyed reading through your comment. 😊

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  11. Body confidence is under constant attack and one of them is definitely social media — which is no insidious as it is so highly edited either by filter or selective sharing, etc. It can be difficult to figure out how to be confident sometimes — thanks for sharing some of your thoughts!

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    1. Thank you for reading! Sometimes you just have to put the phone down and realise that it is crafted content that only shows a snippet of life. At least, that’s what I have to remind myself. 😊

      Thank you for your comment.

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  12. Such a great post! I love how honest and open you were about body image. It’s true, everyone else can have cellulite, scars, stretch marks and it’s beautiful but me? Nope. It’s something I struggle with a lot. Thank you so much for sharing this post Xo

    Elle – ellegracedeveson.com

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  13. I love this post, you are so right. When I was recovering from an eating disorder, I basically had to donate all of my clothes because they were too small. It was so hard but an essential step I needed to take. I kept a few clothes but you just have to be ruthless and get rid of them. I now only have clothes that fit and it makes me feel so much better about myself

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    1. That was a hard step, but it is amazing that you took it! 🥳 It is good that you have a wardrobe where all your clothes fit, and I am glad that it makes you feel so much better about yourself!

      Thank you for your comment. 💜

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  14. Thank you for sharing your story. When you told the story of the jeans., I totally relate to this. I have a pair of jeans from when I was a teenager and I wish I could where I again but I have to tell myself that I am not there any more and it’s okay to accept my body.

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